"if you try harder and keep pursuing I will change my mind"

Okay Mr. Andy I have a question for you... Why is it that when a girl tells a guy that she is not interested they think it means "if you try harder and keep pursuing (or pestering) I will change my mind"? Just for the record this is not how it works... maybe for a week but DEFINETLY not
after a year!

Question submited by: http://www.myspace.com/sonsjoygirl
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What we have stumbled upon here is what I like to call the "Telemarketer" approach. Now mind you, different men have different approaches that they use. Most men know of the different styles available but have their own preference. The telemarketer approach uses the same idea as an actual telemarketer. Telemarketers know that with most weak-minded people, if you can just keep them on the phone and talk to them long enough, either they will agree with whatever you are saying because it seems to start sounding good enough to give it a try, or they will agree with you just to get you off the phone. Either way, they have made the sale. Telemarketers suck and they waste your time, but if you've ever started listening to them, you kinda get sucked in up until then end and hopefully when they throw out the "hook" you have the fortitude to say "no." At this point, they normally hang up.
With men, they have more at stake than just a sale. Remember, men (ok "some" men) are looking for a relationship. They have looked around and they have picked you. For whatever reason, you are the ideal match. Once that has been established, a man's level of rationality goes out of the window.
At this point, once the primary advances have been turned down, it turns into a war of attrition. Using the telemarketer rational, the idea is that if they can keep your attention long enough over a period of weeks, months, and even years, depending of how desireable you are to them, eventualy, you will just give in. Either you will start seeing this person in a different light, or you will give the relationship a try just to get them to stop annoying you.
Amazingly, this technique DOES work. Not always, but enough to keep men's hopes alive in its use.

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